How to set realistic goals and achieve them

Why are behaviors difficult to change?

The way we identify and describe ourselves, and our learned perception of others, affects everything we think, feel, and do.

How To Be Yourself

Words are powerful and persuasive. How we describe our circumstances through language affects our identity and behavior.

How does kindness affect our biology?

We might believe being kind is something we do when we are happy and in a good mood. However, mindfully choosing to be kind to ourselves and others when we are unhappy and distressed, can help us reduce anxiety and learn to cope in life-affirming ways.

Changing the way we see ourselves and others with Language

The way we identify and describe ourselves, and our learned perception of others, affects everything we think, feel, and do.

Receiving Feedback

We can become better leaders by humbly asking for our own performance feedback from those we manage and/or are responsible for.

1. Foundations of General Learning Styles

Most of what think, feel and do has been learned and is unconscious, automatic, and outside our immediate awareness.

2. Defining Reality

3. Changing Our Language and Changing Our Subjectivity

Words matter.

4. The Reality of Human Experience

We are human beings first, having human experiences.

5. Love, Approval and Validation

Our need for love, approval, and validation are the basic driving forces that influence our motivations, choices, and decisions which directly affect our sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, and peace of mind.

6. Rethinking Excessive Habits and Addictive Behaviours

It’s more useful and self-empowering to understand addictive behaviors from a developmental and learning perspective. We learned early on in life how to cope with fear, stress, anxiety, depression, resentment, anger, insecurity, frustration, loneliness, etc, by choosing relationships with people, behaviors, and things, that gave us immediate gratification. By doing so, it became positively reinforcing and allowed us to remove or avoid our emotional distress. We learned our dependency. We can now learn to develop our autonomy.